Sleep and the New Mama

Sleepless nights are pretty much a given after having a baby. Even when they get a little older it’s easy to fall prey to insomnia as you sit up and worry about absolutely everything all night long. I hope my baby doesn’t have a bad reaction to their shots tomorrow. It’s going to be such a pain to go to see my in-laws this weekend. How can I get that poop stain out of my favorite work shirt? It’s nonstop. Sleepless nights and the stress of a new baby can cause all kinds of problems for your health.

An especially dangerous effect of sleep deprivation can be drowsy driving and those with children are more likely to drive drowsy.


It’s important not to drive while drowsy for the safety of your children, yourself and pedestrians. If ever you feel like you’re falling asleep at the wheel, pull over at the closest available, safe opportunity and take a break.


To get through some of this sleep deprivation here are a few tips.

Sleep when the baby sleeps.

An oldie but goodie. It’s so true and incredibly important to rest whenever you have the chance. The housework can wait. Dinner can wait (make ahead meals are so the way to go anyway). Those emails can wait, too. If you’re baby is napping, you should be napping.


Say no to everything.

While we’re on the subject of ignoring emails and housework, let’s remember not to take on any extra responsibilities for the next few months. Don’t feel bad about turning down doing the bake sale this year or politely declining an invitation to your distant cousin’s wedding. Believe me, everyone understands.


Remember this will pass.

I know, this one isn’t helping you sleep right this second. It’s easy to get wrapped up in how poorly you feel and can create a cycle of negative self talk. Tell yourself that this isn’t forever. For some children it takes a while to reach the point of sleeping through the night but it will happen. This is a temporarily difficult stage of parenting that you will overcome. I promise.

One Sage Mama


5 thoughts on “Sleep and the New Mama

  1. Productive Mompreneur says:

    I loved this! I was a huge victim of sleep deprivation because I still try to get everything done regardless of my well-being. I still fall into the trap from time to time, but I’ve gotten better at putting myself first when it comes to my health.

    My son takes longer naps now, sometimes up to 3hrs, so I sleep with him for 1hr then use the rest of the time to peacefully get things done. I have also start working on giving him a bedtime because he is a professional of fighting his sleep, even if I’m up until 2am. I try to be in bed by 11pm, so if I get him in bed by 9, that will give me 2hrs to relax, or get some things done.

    Saying “no” used to make me feel bad, but I love saying it now. It may result into dishes piling up in the sink for a few days, or laundry not getting done one week, but when I say “no” to these things, and others, I eat and sleep better.

    • Amethyst says:

      Saying no is a hard one for me too. I am totally a people pleaser and I am independent to a fault sometimes. Accepting help and accepting my limits would make life a lot easier but I usually am trying to play Supermom.

      I’m glad your son is napping for longer periods now! We went through a stage of minimal napping and it kicked my butt.

      Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment!

  2. Mandy says:

    I can so relate to this post. The sleep deprivation is awful! My son is 2,5 years old now and I’m so happy we all get to sleep the night through (most nights). But those first few months were hard, especially when I was back at work. I found the memory problems the hardest effect. I even forgot essential things for my baby when he went to daycare. Luckily the nursery always had back up!

    • Amethyst says:

      My daughter is about to turn one and I still feel like I have mommy brain all the time. I thought pregnancy brain was serious but there’s nothing like frantically searching the house for your baby’s socks while they’re already wearing them. It’s rough sometimes!

      Thanks so much for reading! ?

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